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Pot Stirrer: Jess

Topic: Relationships



 Hey I'm Jess! Single mom to 2 amazing boys. I've been single for 6 yrs. My last relationship helped me realized that even if I give my all to someone I still won't be enough if they aren't who God intended for me.


I was in an domestic violence relationship for 8 yrs. We were together for 2 years before the abuse started; either he changed or he was tired of hiding the true him from me.  In the beginning I found myself wondering if I was the issue. He was simply just not for me. When you're involved with someone who doesn't compliment your life nothing good will come from it. The life lessons will hurt you to the core and force you to dig deeper to come out on the bright side. 


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Keep stirring Sis,
- Jess

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