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Pot Stirrer: Asia

Topic: Relationships


I am a firm believe that God does things for a reason. I was introduced to my husband by a friend. He had been previously married and one of the things that he said to me when we first started dating was that he would not marry again not unless Jesus came down and told him to. I laughed it off at the time because in my mind I knew that if God said so it would be.  Maybe 2 years into our relationship, I stated to him plain and simple that I wanted to get married because I knew that I was meant to be a wife. He once again said what he said and this time I said well if that is the case at some point this relationship will end. I believe that got him to thinking because well we ended up getting married. It was one of the best days of my life. I became a widow in 2011, only 2 years into our marriage.

                In 2014, God said it was time to start dating again. So I dated a few different guys but none of those relationships worked out. There were some really nice guys but it just didn’t feel right. I couldn’t quite place my finger on it. Then I had the realization that I was no longer the women I once was. I had changed and evolved in the short two years that I was married. My husband had shown me how to be a wife. With that realization, I became more intentional in whom I gave my time to. I was looking for someone I could have longevity with and could match my hustle. I say all this to let people know that LOVE can still be found after loss but just know that you will have a changed mind set. It’s important to be intentional because time is one thing that can’t be given back and enjoy the good and the bad with those you love.

Keep Stirring Sis,

-Asia


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