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Pot Stirrer: Shatia

  This month on the blog, we will be focusing on dealing with insecurities. The women that have submitted stories will be choosing what to focus on involving an insecurity that they have. When I think about insecurities, I think about how much I have grown in having confidence about myself. I have always been a bigger girl and I have been on a crazy journey to self-acceptance. Most days I feel great about myself but there are some days that my insecurities are very loud. My goal is to always be honest and to be self-reflective. Growing up I let my confidence about my weight stop me from doing a lot of things and it has been a major factor in the shy Shatia that everyone knows. I’m naturally not a talker but learning to deal with mean people, has made me an observer. I pick up on vibes and I act accordingly. Being a bigger woman, I noticed that there are things I do to prevent people from connecting me to any stereotypes that people have about fat people. I don’t want to appear ...
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Pot Stirrer: Sam

  Relationships : Cinderella fell…only to rise again So, my 6 year old is one of my world’s biggest blessings. But let me tell you - co-parenting with someone you wish you never had to see again is not for the faint of heart. Picture it, about 8 or 9 years ago, and a new relationship starting. He has the cutest little girl that just expands your heart just like the Grinch 10 times more. We were blessed with another baby about a year and half later in July of 2015. Perfect, right. Well, 3 days postpartum we come home, and I just feel in my gut I will be raising my daughter by myself. Hormones? Or so I thought. I just brushed it off because that wasn’t going to happen. Not to us. No way. We were engaged on Thanksgiving that same year, then bought a new house in January of the next. Life seemed to be PERFECT…But then, it wasn’t. With our different work shifts, I hardly ever saw this boy. He would be working late hours, and then come home some nights, started “falling asleep on the...
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Pot Stirrer: Asia

Topic: Relationships I am a firm believe that God does things for a reason. I was introduced to my husband by a friend. He had been previously married and one of the things that he said to me when we first started dating was that he would not marry again not unless Jesus came down and told him to. I laughed it off at the time because in my mind I knew that if God said so it would be.   Maybe 2 years into our relationship, I stated to him plain and simple that I wanted to get married because I knew that I was meant to be a wife. He once again said what he said and this time I said well if that is the case at some point this relationship will end. I believe that got him to thinking because well we ended up getting married. It was one of the best days of my life. I became a widow in 2011, only 2 years into our marriage.                 In 2014, God said it was time to start dating again. So I dated a few diff...
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Pot Stirrer: Montaya

  Hey hey....I am Taya!   I am a mother of 3, two toddlers I gave birth to and a Stepson.  I have been in a relationship for the last six years with the same man and it has proven to test me in more ways than one.  Eventually, I ran into the ultimate test,  I found out that he had cheated.  After 6 years of playing Mother Goose to the kids and him this was one HELL of a blow to my ego, my confidence, my security and my heart  Via  Eventually after MULTIPLE sit downs and a couple moments of making him go to his moms and sleeping on the couch, begging & standing up as a man and accepting his fate....I decided I would give him a chance to fix what he messed up.  Now i n the midst of all of this happening things were started being revealed to me about me.  The worst was I realized I had forgotten all about Me. Who was I? So caught up in being mommy, spouse, a maid, a teacher, a lover etc that I forgot all about me.  I wasn't do...
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Pot Stirrer: DeShawn

  “Relationships in the rear view” Inquiry is everything, and you would be surprised what questions a person will actually answer when they feel the safety of someone from their past. Ladies, let’s talk about what we do when the relationship is over, and we are looking in the rearview, because if hindsight is 20/20, we should not make the same mistakes twice, right? We should not be repeating history, right? I showed this meme to a few of my man friends, they get that level of respect as they handle business, are not about the drama, and tend to be intentional in their interactions both professionally and privately. I asked them to help me, what I believe to be a level-headed person in my older adulthood, understand why they have more energy trying to win a good woman back, after she is long gone, and what is it that does not resonate while she is there with them, that becomes an unbearable void, once she is gone. The answers were somewhat varied, but ultimately, I found th...
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Welcome to Stirring the Pot

    I have loved writing and expressing myself through written words for as long as I can remember.  In high school I started a newspaper at my church and in college, I started blogging. I have had several personal blogs focusing on a variety of topics from natural hair to my teaching adventures. Even though I have loved every moment of sharing my words with the world, there always comes a time when I get too busy to keep post consistent. So in an effort to keep sharing my gift and the stories of other women, I have created Stirring the Pot. Stirring the Pot will be a collective of reflections and stories written by women of all walks of life, on any and every topic that we can imagine. I believe that we can learn from the reflections and insights of others, so there is definitely a need for a space like this. This space will be used to encourage each other and to lift each other up, through the eyes of every woman. Sometimes the pot has to be stirred to get to the good s...
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Pot Stirrer: Jess

Topic: Relationships   Hey I'm Jess! Single mom to 2 amazing boys. I've been single for 6 yrs. My last relationship helped me realized that even if I give my all to someone I still won't be enough if they aren't who God intended for me. I was in an domestic violence relationship for 8 yrs. We were together for 2 years before the abuse started; either he changed or he was tired of hiding the true him from me.  In the beginning I found myself wondering if I was the issue. He was simply just not for me. When you're involved with someone who doesn't compliment your life nothing good will come from it. The life lessons will hurt you to the core and force you to dig deeper to come out on the bright side.  Keep stirring Sis, - Jess
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